May God grant you comfort in your loss.

Condolences and Reflections

In this piece, we reflect on the sentiments surrounding condolences:

1. We extend our heartfelt condolences and pray that your grief is eased, that your loss is compensated, and that your deceased loved one is forgiven and granted peace. These phrases are familiar to many of us as we offer condolences to the bereaved. However, a question arises: When should we express these words to our loved ones? When can we expect others to visit our homes to offer their condolences on our behalf? Will they come after twenty years, one year, or perhaps today?
2. Only God knows when such moments will occur. Dear brother in faith, are you prepared for death? It is essential to reflect on the realities of mortality and the hopes and fears that follow. Have you consoled your own soul before others console your family upon your passing? This is a crucial question. Have you envisioned people gathering in your home for your farewell? What would the state of your mother, father, spouse, and children be if present?
3. Can you visualize yourself being handled by the one preparing you for burial, gently turning you from side to side? Have you contemplated the moment when you are laid in the grave, the soil is placed upon you, and you hear the footsteps of others as they return to their lives after your burial?
4. My dear brother, the true loneliness arises in the grave where the body lies shrouded. Have you remembered the moments of your final sickness, when your loved ones are beside you? As the moments grow heavier and death grips you tight, your soul departs from this world, and your family prepares to pray for you, laying you alone in the grave, with no mother to comfort you, no father to accompany you, and no sibling to support you.
5. May God grant you strength, bless you with patience, forgive your loved ones, and admit them to the gardens of paradise. O Allah, illuminate their grave with light. Have mercy on them, grant them eternal peace, and inspire their family with patience and solace. All power and strength are with Allah alone.
6. O Allah, forgive them, have mercy on them, pardon their sins, honor their descent, widen their entrance, cleanse them with water, snow, and cold, and purify them from sins as a white garment is cleansed from dirt. Show them mercy and us when we return to our final resting place. Reward them with good deeds and pardon their shortcomings. Open the doors of heaven for their soul through Your mercy, O Most Merciful of the merciful. O Allah, grant them ease in their reckoning, and may their grave be a garden from the gardens of paradise, not a pit from the pits of fire. Grant their beloved ones patience and consolation.
7. O Allah, if they were righteous, increase their good deeds. If they committed sins, overlook their transgressions. Exchange their earthly abode with something better and a family superior to theirs. Expand their grave as far as their vision can see, making it a garden from the gardens of paradise, not a pit from the pits of fire. Provide solace to their loved ones.
8. O Allah, grant them the fruit of paradise and all that is good and pure. Lift the veil from their sight and make them among those You mentioned in Your holy words. O Allah, You who knows all faces and voices, who holds the destiny of everything and grants sustenance to all, extend Your grace upon them, O Eternal Bestower of kindness. O Acknowledged Benefactor, You who hears the smallest sound in the darkness of night, You who does not forget those who forget You, be merciful to us.

Phrases of Condolences

Here are some phrases commonly expressed during times of mourning:

1. Indeed, we belong to Allah and to Him, we shall return. O Allah, I seek my reward for this calamity in You; replace it with something better.
2. (O Allah, forgive our living and deceased, our young and old, our male and female, our present and absent. O Allah, whomever You grant life from among us, keep them steadfast in their faith, and whomever You have taken, take them peacefully. O Allah, do not deny us their rewards, nor lead us astray after them.)
3. O Allah, grant them a place among the patient, and reward them as the patient are rewarded.
4. O Allah, Your generous hands are open in giving, You are near and You respond to the prayers of the supplicant. You, O Most Merciful, the Creator of the heavens and the earth, bestow upon the deceased the best of what You granted Your Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), an unfading gift from the treasures of the heavens and the earth, an immense gift from the Mighty Lord, befitting Your glorious countenance and supreme authority.
5. May Allah reward you for honoring them, but continue your generosity with prayers and supplications, for they are the ultimate good deeds. We ask Allah for mercy, salvation, and success in attaining the highest paradise.
6. Despite the sadness in our hearts for their departure, we find comfort in knowing they are in the care of the Most Merciful, the All-Forgiving, who rescues them through His grace and comforts their family. May He accept them as a martyr and a righteous believer.

Phrases for Mourning Relatives

Below are phrases used to console relatives in times of grief:

1. We share in your sorrow; may the deceased find mercy, and may you have lasting comfort. Indeed, we belong to Allah and to Him, we shall return.
2. With hearts filled with faith in Allah, content with His decree, we offer our deepest condolences and sincerest sympathies to our beloved brother.
3. What Allah has taken is for Allah, and what He has given is also for Him, for everything is predetermined. Have patience, for perhaps Allah will grant your hearts tranquility and envelop your loved one in His mercy, turning their grave into a garden from paradise.
4. With a believer’s heart and a content soul, I extend my heartfelt condolences for your loved one who was a dear brother and a true friend. I pray that Allah grants you patience, fortifies him at the questioning in the grave, and admits him to His vast gardens.

Phrases for Mourning Parents

Here are phrases suitable for expressing condolences upon the passing of parents:

1. May Allah have mercy on your parent, and may He reward you greatly. I pray that He envelops them in His vast mercy and admits them to His eternal paradise.
2. I beseech the Almighty God, Lord of the mighty throne, to forgive their sins, have mercy on their frailties, and expand their grave, never letting us stray after their departure. May Allah grant you patience, dear sister, and comfort.
3. May Allah have mercy on your mother and grant her peace in His gardens. I pray for your family to receive immense patience and solace, and may He illuminate her grave and broaden her resting place.
4. May Allah have mercy on your mother, reward you greatly, and extend the finest condolences, granting your lost loved one a place in paradise.